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Oh . . . no, it’s called Tinder. I had to google it. I came across an article that said “If you’re single, you’re probably on Tinder.” That bugs me. Why is it assumed that all single people are lonely, unhappy, and desperately trying to find love (or sex)? It’s all around us—online (Plenty of Fish, eHarmony, Match, and now Tinder), TV reality dating shows (Bachelor/ette, Millionaire Matchmaker), married people feeling sorry for singletons on Valentine’s Day, etc. etc.

Well, let me be the first single woman to say it: I am completely content being single. I have no desire to date or be in a relationship. After The Break Up, I spent years recovering from the devastating loss and healing my heart. It was not easy, but I learned to be comfortable being alone and even enjoy it. I have also accepted the possibility that I may never be in a relationship again, and I’m ok with that. I will be happy regardless. Because I do not need a man to complete me. I am a whole person all by myself. I am a strong woman. If I am meant to be with someone, it will happen. But I don’t need to live my life looking for it, or even wanting it.

That’s what my single friends who are frustrated or sad about not finding anyone through dating websites don’t understand. They’re not ready to be in a relationship because they aren’t comfortable being alone. They need to take “time off” and learn to be comfortable and accept being in their own skin without having the need or desire to be with anyone.

It’s International Women’s Day on March 8. Be strong. Be single.

Author: elle superstar

I had four cats - now I have six but still no one to talk to, LOL. So, I write this blog to entertain me, myself, and I... and perhaps you.

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