When my friends tell me a story, I listen. I’m engaged in the conversation. I ask questions, I give my opinions, I offer advice, I share their joy if they’re happy, I sympathize if it’s warranted. I’m not formulating my next comment while they’re still speaking. I patiently wait until they’ve finished their story. That’s why I get extremely irritated when they don’t reciprocate. I have a few friends like that, but I interact with one in particular so frequently {i.e. every day because we work together} that I’m starting to not want to hang out with her anymore. If she’s not talking about the guys she meets online, then she’s upset with her family or her roommate. {That’s another irritation – bitching all the time.} Earlier this week, she was telling me about another online dating story. When she finished, I said there was only a week left until my trip to see my niece graduate high school, wanting and expecting to talk about how excited I was to see my niblings {my made up word to denote “nieces and nephews”, so that I could use just a single word}. In the next breath, she starting talking about another guy. It was as if she didn’t even hear me. And so, I was stuck listening to another goddamn guy story {she’s one of the two friends I was referring to in timber}. I don’t think I’m going to hang out with her for the next bunch of days before I leave.
And since we’re on the topic, I also hate it when another friend whom I used to work with would text her husband while we ate lunch together. How rude. If you want to spend time with me, then put your phone away. If it’s urgent, he’ll ring you. I often sat there eating quietly while she texted.
Am I the only one among my social circle who values and communication and courtesy? Seems so.